What Is Relational Magic?


Remember falling asleep in your lover's arms?

Or the amazing grace of having a baby melt into your chest?

Or talking deep into the night with your dearest friend ... and the blessed relief of not needing to hold anything back?

This precious state of intimacy and connection is only a few breaths away.

Relational Magic is a profoundly simple partnered meditation practice that relaxes our bodies, opens our hearts, and puts all our fears to rest.

Would you like to learn more about this practice?


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What results is a 

profoundly felt sense of 

peace and connection,

a natural biochemical high 

that neuro-mirrors 

intimate love,

meditative samadhi 

and mystical oneness.


What's Behind The Relational Magic?

Relational Magic is a deceptively simple process that rests on multiple dimensions of neurobiology, pranayama, focused sensory awareness, tantric ritual, intimate communion, witness consciousness, sound entrainment, sequenced relaxation, psychological regression, shadow work, neurolinguistic programming, wizardry and primate zoology.

The exercises are designed to dissolve the Western experience of separate self into rhythmic waves of sensation and feeling that are shared with a partner in real time.

What results is a profoundly felt sense of peace and connection, a natural biochemical high that neuro-mirrors intimate love, meditative samadhi and mystical oneness.  In groups, we focus on generating intimacy, emotional openness, and physical bonding in a safe, slow, guided non-sexual way.

We reawaken our primal need for human connection, animal to animal, body to body, heart to heart, without the stress or uncertainty of sex. By trusting our bodies and each other, we reclaim our original innocence... and remember we are safe.


How Relational Magic Came to Be

The Relational Magic practices were developed by David Cates in his healing work with sexual trauma. The results were so potent that David adapted many of the exercises to share in groups. I've been a student of David's since 2004, but my learning with with him accelerated profoundly when, in 2015, along with about a dozen other students, we embarked on a six-month immersion together in Bali where we lived together communally and practiced Relational Magic meditations together four days a week.  This experience fundamental altered my life, my heart, and my nervous system in a beautiful way!  Now my partner Rick Smith and I want to share that experience with you!